How do you know if you actually trust someone? Is it a simple as jumping into a car and following them to a destination, or even going on a vacation together? Is there a formula for trusting someone written in some coded language, buried in some ancient grounds, waiting to be discovered?
How do you begin to trust that someone has your best interest at heart? It is said that the natural human nature is to be supremely selfish and self-seeking; personally I think that is a little extreme ,although given the way some relationships turn out, I have little doubt that some people make that thought to be painfully accurate.
Is it reasonable to expect another person to really care so much about your needs, that they would put you first, above their own desires and seek your happiness? Think about flying, we are taught to first put the oxygen on ourselves then help someone after, yes after we have secured our own selves. What happens to trusting the person to put you first in that situation?
There is always one life jacket per person on a ship, and each person has to secure themselves first, before attempting to help another. Why then if real life situations demand that we look after ourselves first, do we seek to trust a lover with a trust to put us first?
This is not to say that your lover should not regard you highly, but I am simply asking a question; is it possible for love to make trust different? Does trust become different when we are in love? Does love impact trust so that your lover is selfless in his care of you?
In business there are consequences for breach of trust that has nothing to do with love. Perhaps share price, market value and consumer confidence, are enough reasons for trust to be maintained and demanded in business.
With a lover there are no major consequences or penalties, sure there is the heartache, the frustration and divorce. But think with me here, is it the same when a lover breaks your trust as when a business breaks public trust?
My suggestion than is that a characteristic of trust is love, and that love is the mystery of trust. Perhaps it is the fact that my lover may not want to lose our relationship, that fuels him to not give me reasons to mis-trust his actions, words or deeds. Perhaps it is love that makes a lover not to want to break the trust of his loved one.
It may be reasonable then to say that without love, there can be really no trust when dealing with the matters of the heart.
“I believe in love and all it stands for." MayahRose🌹